{Not} Responsible
By Lexi Cole Ellis
“Therefore, my brothers and sisters, make every
effort to confirm
your calling and election.”
I was
stuck…driving on a one-lane road behind a huge commercial truck filled to the
brim with small rocks. I slowed down to what felt like a crawl. In an attempt to avoid the occasional spray
of rocks flying out, I left a significant amount of space between the truck and
myself. Even with the distance, I listened to the tink of small pebbles hitting
my windshield. I couldn’t help but laugh at the irony that stared me right in
the face. On the back of the truck, it
read…
Later that week, I saw a similar sign as I entered the car wash. If their machinery happens to malfunction, they’re not responsible for any damage that’s caused to your car either.
I wish
I could walk around with a “not responsible” sign for life. Warning! Not responsible for that
“less-than-ideal” tone of voice or attitude that was unnecessarily harsh with
my kids. Sorry! Not responsible for the hurt feelings that are a result of my
selfishness with my husband. Stay back! Not responsible for the broken hearts
or wounded spirits because of my actions with my friend.
But
the truth remains, we are responsible for our actions. We are
accountable to the areas or spheres where we’ve been called into leadership. I am responsible for how I treat others because, as
a Believer, I am called to let my life be a light. Scripture is pretty clear
that it’s not just our words that matter…God also sees the condition of our
heart; our attitude matters.
Believers
don’t get a “not responsible” sign that allows us to flee from responsibility.
We are called to not only invest in relationships - - but to also monitor and
own up when we mess up. Life is complicated and not without conflict. But rather
than claim it’s not our fault and leave, we are called to enter into the mess.
Thankfully,
none of the pebbles actually cracked my windshield that day. But I am also thankful
for the reminder that real life - - a life that pursues holiness and community
- - is one that rejects the easier idea of putting up a “not responsible” sign.
GOING
DEEPER:
1.
Take some time to examine the different areas of your life. Are
there relationships or situations where you’re attempting to post the “not
responsible” sign? What needs to change?
FURTHER
READING:
Lexi and her husband, Andrew, have an adorable dog named
Calvin. Lexi teaches sixth grade, serves with Children’s Ministries and is the
Fresh Start Coordinator.
