Tuesday, May 7, 2019


Sistering
By Elizabeth Cole

“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.”

What do you do when something needs repairing in your home? Buy a how-to book at Home Depot? Call your friend Dan? Check the yellow pages? (Do those still exist?!)

No…you “youtube” it. Case in point: my dryer stopped working a few years ago, so I searched Youtube for the most likely reasons, googled the nearest repair supply store, and installed my new part…with success that every single loved one heard about for the next two weeks…or months!

So, I was on youtube recently and found a fascinating video on repairing sagging joists. Essentially, the best way to fix a joist that isn’t functional alone is to affix another joist alongside it, nailing the two together in such a way that the old joist and the new joist together are functional and useful, being what they were made to be.

That, in and of itself, is pretty great. But want to know the best part? It’s called sistering. Yep, the common construction definition of sistering is “To strengthen (a supporting beam) by fastening a second beam alongside it.” [1]

Sounds a lot like intentional, relational disciplemaking to me.

I have this dream that the sisters I love and lead would be in the business of sistering: of coming up alongside another in long-term, intentional relationships for the purpose of spiritual strengthening, developing and building up, supporting and living out what they were made to be. That we’d be willing to say “no” to other pursuits that have no eternal value to open up the space and time to invest in another woman’s life…in the lives of children, in our husbands’ lives. To see value and potential…to love as Jesus loves.

The Apostle Paul was a master at sistering. He writes to His Roman brothers and sisters, “I long to see you that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to make you strong - - that is, that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith” (Romans 1:11-12). That second part of his longing expresses a profound truth: the one discipling grows right alongside the one she’s discipling…the act of sistering is mutually encouraging, each becoming more of who she was made to be, side-by-side the other, strengthened for God’s call on her life.

Are you up for some sistering today?

GOING DEEPER:
1.  Whom has God purposefully placed in your life for you to sister…and are you?

FURTHER READING:

Elizabeth is a wife with three grown daughters and two sons-in-law, and is the Director of Connecting at Oakwood Church.


[1] http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/sister. The concept of spiritual sistering is in Women of Influence: Ten Traits of Those Who Want to Make a Difference by Pam Farrel (Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press), 2006.