Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Shout Without Screaming
By Lexi Cole Ellis

“For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing.”

It feels like there is little that one can say without evoking a debate based solely on emotion rather than facts. Just say, “Harambe” the gorilla, Target bathrooms, Republican nominee, Democratic nominee…the list goes on. When did BOTH sides become so sensitive that we cannot conduct a positive dialogue agreeing to disagree - - maybe even thankful for another perspective? When have BOTH sides become carriers of incomplete soundbites, filled with emotion and outrage, and not willing or able to distinguish the greater complexity of the issue(s)?
Don’t get me wrong: We need to be passionate. There ARE things we need to be fighting for. Yet I worry about our lack of compassion and complete disregard for any credibility the “other side” might have. Our “outrage” verges on over-exaggerating and alienating those whom we, as believers, are called to love. The result? We become incapable of recognizing that not everything is dogma; some opinions can be held with which others can simply disagree.
Recently, one of our pastors shared this point in a sermon that, as believers, we need to relearn how to “shout without screaming.” [1] I was immediately captivated by the phrase. It echoed a lot of what I was feeling.
How do we shout without screaming? Shouting is to “utter a loud call or cry, typically as an expression of strong emotion.” Screaming is to “cry something in a high-pitched, frenzied way” or to “urgently and vociferously call attention to one’s views or feelings, especially ones of anger or distress.” [2] Both communicate beliefs that matter deeply to us. Yet what makes the two words different is the tone that is used when expressing oneself. 
Jesus didn’t lack passion in His opinions, and He certainly critiqued ungodly behavior. But His tone was not frenzied or vociferous. He wasn’t known exclusively for His (necessary) outrage - - but also for His works of healing those with physical and spiritual needs. Additionally, throughout the New Testament, Paul repeatedly writes that the Church is to be known by its love for God and love for others.
It makes me wonder… How am I crying out about the things that I feel strongly about? What does my tone sound like in my conversations with others, in my workplace, or what I post on social media?  Am I shouting or am I screaming?
May we be known as those who shout without screaming.

GOING DEEPER:
1.      Take some time to be honest with yourself. In your interaction with others or on social media, are you shouting or screaming?

FURTHER READING:

Lexi and her husband, Andrew, have an adorable dog named Calvin. Lexi teaches sixth grade reading and writing, serves with Children’s Ministries and is the Fresh Start Coordinator.

[1] April 24, 2016:
Oakwood Church sermon: "Learning to Ride a Bike" Nate Stenholtz, Family Life Pastor.
http://www.oakwoodnow.org/resources/messages.html